“Get Off The Scale!
You are beautiful. Your beauty, just like your capacity for life, happiness, and success, is immeasurable. Day after day, countless people across the globe get on a scale in search of validation of beauty and social acceptance.
Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life.
It’s true, the scale can only give you a numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity. That’s it. It cannot measure beauty, talent, purpose, life force, possibility, strength, or love. Don’t give the scale more power than it has earned. Take note of the number, then get off the scale and live your life. You are beautiful!”
This statement is pretty easy to understand. It’s pretty straight forward but also pretty easy to overlook and disregard. I don’t want to always relate my entries to fitness and competing, but it is very much a large part of my life so I kind of have to. I love being able to challenge myself everyday. I like the monotony of living a lifestyle that I can plan, schedule and understand (most of the time, haha). But the most difficult thing I come across is being able to be completely happy with myself. With how I look each day. With how I feel. With how I performed and what I accomplished. And no matter how heavy of a weight I pick up, or for how long I run, if I can’t pick myself up each time I fall physically and mentally, none of it really matters.
I believe our lives are made up of moments. Some moments we pay more attention to than others and we let them linger longer than they should. So then, those moments turn into long, drawn out moments that just create more problems for us. Being human in moments is normal. Feeling anger, guilt, sadness, grief, frustration, disappointment and other emotions that aren’t “good” for us, are all normal. They are healthy. They are what makes us react to a situation, they are opportunities, they are a chance to push us further than we would choose to push ourselves. How you handle situations is a direct correlation with how a moment will progress. If you let the said emotions consume you and your life, that is where you will stay. If you accept situations and moments for what it is, take time to understand and logically compute what is at stake, then you are on your way to being back on track.
I try to advise my clients and friends to always take your situations head on. Look at it for what it REALLY IS, not misinterpret it, make assumptions or contort it into what makes you comfortable. Don’t twist words, don’t become blind to the truth, don’t make excuses and more importantly, don’t avoid it. Take on whatever monster it is that is holding you from your real potential. I am terrified of failure, I am terrified of making a fool of myself and I am constantly trying to talk myself out of ever getting back on stage. I am embarrassed of my last showing. I am mortified of it happening again. BUT, what happened definitely happened and the possibility of me moving forward and progressing is impossible if I refuse to see those moments for what it was. I’ll know when I am ready to get back on stage. And right now I’m not sure I am since I find myself torturing my self-worth by nit-picking my day to day physique. It has been crippling my progress. Take for instance these photos:
You would think that these may have a couple weeks in between them. But in all actuality, this is a ONE DAY DIFFERENCE (May 20th, 2016 to May 21st, 2016). I have been stressed out this last week, my water intake was a little low, I just finished my woman cycle and I think I’ve been angry at TM like 12 times this week. So, you see, moments take a toll not just mentally, and emotionally and psychologically, but also physically. I am addressing this and relating it to the fitness world because you fitness nerds (myself included) are ruining your ability to reach your full potential because you’re doing the same thing. This is also applicable to anyone who is trying to reach any goal. Stop getting in your own way. Moments are going to throw you off your game and you need to be prepared for them. You need to be able to have proper coping mechanisms in place to avoid digging yourself into a deeper hole.
For instance, I have learned that if there is a day that I might be feeling a little “fluffy” I avoid mirrors and wear long sleeves. It might be a little extreme or maybe even a little sad that I have to take such measures to save my psyche, but it’s worth it. Because this is how I have learned to handle it. I know it happens, I know why it happens and I know how to fix it. I am aware that I am going to fluctuate from day to day (AND SO ARE YOU). I am aware that I gain 3-5 lbs of water weight when I am having my cycle and if I have a high-stress day, I probably won’t see my abs the next day. Or if I don’t sleep well for a few days, my legs might look like marshmallows. These are all things I KNOW are going to happen.
Life is going to happen and life is going to be really hard. It’s going to come in and turn itself upside down and wait for you to fold. But it’s a good thing you’re tougher than that. It’s a good thing that you believe in yourself and know that you are bigger than any moment life might challenge you with. Whether that it is getting through a prep, dealing with relationships, having a difficult conversation, death in the family or whatever else might try to trip you up and attempt to take down your self-confidence, you’ll be ready. Because even though you’re human and the very real raw and painful emotions you might experience, these moments are only going to make you more beautiful and more powerful than ever. So understand that moments are going to happen and it’s very normal and necessary for you to react, just don’t stay there for too long.